It's funny to me that while bullying of kids is getting so much media attention, bullying of new Moms is the cool new thing to do. "I gained 10 pounds during my pregnancy and I'm in a bikini 3 days later! Go me!" Everywhere I turn there are celebrities competing for the best post-baby bodies, and the ones who are actually focused on feeding and nurturing their babies get called out as fat. They aren't fat, people. They just spent ten months growing a human being. They just made a person! Give them a freakin' break!
Some women bounce back naturally after birth. Just nursing activates some sort of hyper-metabolism that helps them shed the weight super fast. Other women look perfect from the outside but are hiding stretch marks or c-section scars or both. For me, I had no problem losing the jiggle of new motherhood with my first child, but with after my second pregnancy I just cannot get rid of it. I nursed both my kiddos for 19 months each and it worked wonders with kid one and helped me not at all with kid two. Oh well.
Am I going to put my kids in daycare so I can work out? No.
Some days I fall victim to the crazy. I see pictures of people who obviously have full-time nannies and personal trainers and I envy their pristine body and easy life. But then I look at my kids. I love them. They love me! They know me and I know them. I may not get much sleep and I may have a little "mom jiggle" that I'd love to shed, but I also don't have paparazzi chasing me to take pictures of my thighs and critique them. I feel sorry for these new celebrity moms. I also feel sorry for the regular ol' human new moms who feel that there is something wrong with them for not turning into a supermodel right after they have their baby.
Motherhood, especially new and raw motherhood, is hard enough without the pressure of physical perfection. Here's a little secret. There are tons of women out there who would kill to look like you. Women who couldn't get pregnant, or lost their child. Women who had children and watched them grow and feel that tug of wanting just one more. Women who would give anything and pray nightly for a chance at those tiger stripes you are ashamed of.
Take a look in the mirror. You are a Mom! You have at least one person in this world who absolutely and completely adores you. Someone who will love you until the day you die. Someone who thinks you look like a Disney princess when you first wake up and haven't brushed your teeth. Someone who couldn't care less that you have dimply thighs and a striped tummy because they don't know about body issues. They will learn that... possibly from you. Give yourself a break. You are their SuperMom!!
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