Maybe just to my kids. :)
Like most people though, I do enjoy browsing the occasional gossip magazine. It's fun!
I always have a giggle at the page that says "They're just like us! Look, Drew Barrymore sneezes! Jennifer Garner carries her own grocery bags! Justin Timberlake chews gum! Wowza!"
As fun as it is to keep up with the fashion trends while shaking your head in disbelief at Miley Cyrus' latest debacle, having celebrities shoved in our faces all day every day is taking its toll on our society.
I wrote in November 2013 about the increasing pressure to be a size 2, three weeks after baby. You will see stories every week in every women's magazine detailing celebrities who magically lost every pound they gained during pregnancy in a matter of days. Their skin is tight and glowing! The bar is being raised higher and higher and we "normal moms" are falling farther and farther.
This morning I read that Kim Kardashian's daughter had her first birthday bash complete with ferris wheel. Poor little North West is starting her life with her parents setting unreachable expectations, focused solely on material things, and competing for the best first birthday parties with all her one year old pals. We may have gotten out of control. Soon we will read that poor child has had plastic surgery to suck the fat out of her little baby thighs.
As fun as it is to read about the lives of others, I wonder what our kids think? I don't remember my mom ever reading any gossip magazines growing up, so I don't have any memories of seeing perfect bodies on covers of magazines and feeling pressure that I should be looking that way. Thank goodness, since I was a late bloomer and doomed to be boy-chested until my sophomore year in college.
We marvel at the increasing suicide rates of teenagers, are flabbergasted by brutal bullying at school and online, and we don't realize it may all stem from feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing that comes from seeing people who are "perfect" and feeling like the rest of us are all trolls.
The truth is, if you google "celebrities without makeup", suddenly even Jennifer Aniston looks average. Celebrities have acne scars, cellulite, stretch marks, thigh jiggle, and crooked teeth. No matter their level of plastic surgery, they still have stinky feet, pass gas, etc. These people are humans. I bet they even envy our ability to have a brownie without the paparazzi announcing that they are pregnant.
I read a few months ago that kids get their body image issues gift wrapped from their parents. If all they hear is "I can't eat that! I'll be fat!" or "Ugh, I am huge. I hate myself." they will think there is something wrong with them. By nature, kids are shameless with their bodies. They will run naked through the streets without worrying that their tummy is bouncing along and their hair is a knotty mess.
I've always had self-esteem issues. I have always been shy about my body. Even with my own SuperHub, I bet he has only seen me in a swimsuit 20 times in almost 12 years. I hope to teach my kids that it's okay to be normal. It's actually fabulous to be a normal, regular person. What makes you the most beautiful is not three hours of pilates, but a kind and gracious spirit. A helping hand. Smiling at people and shining your light everywhere you go. You can be awesome and love horses and Star Trek and wear Crocs. What makes humans amazing is variety and diversity and the freedom to be completely unique. It's beautiful!
There is no child who loves their mom more because she looks great in a bikini. Not one child. And there are plenty of moms who are attentive and adoring, who spend time to teach kindness and goodness to their kiddos, who are not obsessed with how they look. When I realized that Piper would turn into her Mom, just as I have, I realized that is a huge responsibility. Rather than passing on my neuroses, I am working hard to change them and find happiness in myself.
I'm not a supermodel.
I'm not a celebrity.
I'm Regan and I'm totally okay with that. Actually, I love it.
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